UNTIL YOU ARE A WIFE - DON'T ACT LIKE ONE!

"Let Him Know That Marriage Has Its Privileges"

Deciding to become a couple in a committed relationship is a very important stage of a relationship, that usually occurs after a 4-6 month courtship with Ms. Edna's Get A Man Plan.  

It's a fun stage, the guards are down and both parties are being themselves. The two have expressed love for each other, and have firmly established themselves as a committed couple. 

It is also the stage where most women become far too comfortable and start to make a slew of bad decisions and critical mistakes. Thus, I am advising you to enjoy but beware, as this is the stage where men cross over and decide to trade bachelorhood for marriage. Unfortunately, and to their detriment, most women at this stage usually start to act married and begin treating their "boyfriends" like husbands - because they feel so close and connected to him. Not quite yet girlfriend - you are not the wifey, but you will be very shortly if you play your hand correctly and resist making foolish mistakes at this stage of the game. 

There will come a time when you can shower him with all the love you have to give and he will appreciate it and feel like the luckiest man in the world - but not now. Also, at this stage men are so much in love they want to change your living arrangements. He will propose living together, or, the live together situation just eases it's way into the relationship. Don't do it or let it happen! Hold out for what you really want (to be his wife). 

Also during this period, a lot of women lose their autonomy.  Something a woman should never do ever, not even in marriage. As a result of spending so much time together, some women start to lose themselves in the relationship and cease allowing personal time for herself much less friends. Consequently, with all of this togetherness and mutual exchange of loving feelings, she will assume full wife responsibilities as our natural inclination  to nurture and care for kicks in This is what we do as women, when we love someone,  we want to care for and take care of them.  

The guy in  turn reaps all of the benefits of that tender love. She is cooking for him, cleaning up after him, doing his laundry, pampering and loving on him. Not only that he has 24/7 access to a loving and willing sex partner. Big mistake ladies! At first he will feel like he has died and gone to heaven. Slowly but surely, he will start to lose some respect for you as he begins to wonder what in the hell is wrong with you to give so much with so little in return. Consequently, he will start to reconsider marrying you. 

Men know when they are getting a free ride, and can't quite figure out why you would allow him to use you like that and in most cases will  begin to think maybe you aren't who he though you were. Before you know it, a year has gone by, then 2, then 3, and on and on, until one day you get pissed and give him an ultimatum, or he gets tired of you and moves on to someone new. Which ever comes first, another one bites the dust, you failed once again to close the deal. 

Women give, give, give, then and give some more at this stage of a relationships.  They don't realize that all of this comfort you are giving, only causes him to put off marriage, or reconsider it altogether. As the saying goes, "why buy the cow, when you are already getting all of the milk you wan for free"?  It makes perfect sense to me. 

When a man is receiving all of the benefits associated with being married from his girl, what is his incentive for actually marrying her? NONE! This is the ultimate deal breaker, and you thought you were just loving your man! Don't get mad at him for deciding to enjoy the cow without buying it, you did this to yourself. He had good intentions, he thought he had to be married to reap all of these rewards.  He also thought you were the type of girl who wouldn't allow herself to be used in this manner until you showed him otherwise. 

In closing, I have to caution you one last time.  Don't play house or  housewife at this stage of the game. This is the stage where you close the deal, the stage where both of you  can't wait to spend more time with one another, and the freedom to give your all to each other without apprehension or fear because marriage bonds two people in a way that only married people know.  Don't blow it by giving him more benefits than he has earned or deserve. 

Source: http://msedna.blogspot.com/2010/08/until-you-are-wife-dont-act-like-one.html