Goodnite Power Games

If you really want to make sure your kids don't like to do something, then like it yourself. There's no better way to turn them off to something you love or value than to want to share it with them.

Sports. Music. Politics. Religion. You name it. Somewhere deep down they probably get the core value of what it is you think is important about your like. But it will come out on the surface as something wholly alien.

I probably have a lot of conservative values, even though my parents would hardly agree, placing me squarely in the enemy's camp. Likewise, I'd like to think I'm religious in my own way, even though they probably think I reject all that is sacred to them. And it's true, what we consider to be religious are probably quite different and, from a certain perspective, even conflicting things.

Try to make demands on them, and there's a good chance they'll just learn rebellion; the need to make something your own is so subtley strong that you're bound to do the opposite On the other hand, maybe they'll be good people, do some good things, be less selfish in this scheme of things -- despite you, if not directly becuase of you.

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Sometimes I don't say goodnight to the boy, just to see if he will. And usually he doesnt either.

We will be judged by our worst selves. The thousands of big and small good things you do out of love or duty will be taken for granted, and your bad habits and worst mistakes will be counted up against you.

It probably would be better in many cases, in history and in or lives, to just have left things alone. So that your worst sin could be passivity, rather than all the damage we do trying to do something good. We're not as strong as we think we are or can be, and then we do more hurt by falling short and not reaching all the way, than if we had never gone at all.

Who says it's the trying and struggling that counts? Blessed is he who sits still and isn't decieved by vanity.

Source: http://pappadayzee.blogspot.com/2010/08/goodnite-power-games.html