Ten Tips for Taming Toddler Tantrums

If you have never tried a desperate mother, beating his arms and legs looked like his baby wipes snot arms in the middle of a shopping center and has vowed not to return your child more like the sweet kid, think again.

Capricci is a normal fact of life for children. Can help a whim, when a storm of intense emotions to handle a child who are not equipped for this, but as an attempt to do everything around him, especially his poor opinion,parents in a quandary.

Tantrums are often an expression of emotional distress (with your child, ie, the person you are great here) and can be heard through the frustration, loss, disappointment can be triggered or not understood the need to download an accumulation of stress .

Of course some tantrums are pushing beyond the boundaries, perhaps a cookie or toy that is not permitted, many small and these are usually relatively easy to be distracted or blow when they are ignored (you are approachingstatus).

We must also consider whether the cookie is really angry Broken straw that broke the camel's back. Whether your child is the reaction to a seemingly solid biscuits really broken biscuit or a collection of small, but stressful events that occurred during the day (a drink paid for breakfast, her brother beat the tower block, had to wait for lunch while Mom fixed the crying child and now is grumpy because he's hungry andtheir blood sugar is low, and their rice-cracker broke)?

Trying to see things from the perspective of your child, it is much easier not to take personally, whims and is much easier to help your child grow relatively well at this stage that if you turn on an outbreak in a power struggle.

It can also help to see the positive side of tantrums. Whenever you help your child with his intense emotions, try and console yourself that stress sculptureRegulatory mechanisms in its tiny brain. This will allow him to address the frustrations and anger in adulthood: According to psychotherapist and child mental health specialist, Dr. Margot Sunderland, the child too good, they have not learned early on that anger when he feels strongly about, broke expressed a fear reaction of parents, parental love and the price is in complete agreement.

Dr. Sunderland, says that the child is missing too good sculpture vital brain, which means thatwhen facing frustration in adult life, may respond with tantrums or fight to be assertive.

Taming tantrums
You can reduce tantrums and help your child (and you) cope better with stressful situations by using some simple strategies and sensible planning:

1) Elimination of frustration on your child's boundaries
The challenges are necessary for the development for children, but try to intervene before a challenge is to help a frustration with the offer. Guide gently, but do not takeabout. To rotate the piece of the puzzle so he can establish with him inside If your senses are dead to reach the threshold, creating a diversion towards a calming, soothing activity - a different place, a toy, a hug, a story, a song or maybe a snack.

2) Look for triggers
Find common tantrum triggers. They seem to happen especially when your dead tired? Hungry? racing? There are situations that is difficult to manage as Playgroup, shopping or a safety belt fastened?Keeping a tantrum diary might help you understand, cause them. Try to think ahead and limit overwhelming situations. For instance, plan short shopping when not tired, take nutritious snacks and water to drink every time you go and not wait for difficult behavior before providing food or sound like a reward.

3) Cut junk food
Some foods may change bad angel to complete: Candy can glycemic variations, mood swings, as a trigger of caffeine"Coke" drinks hype kids for hours (and this applies also to the Diet Coke), so that literally do not stand still, let alone sleep, or chemicals and additives, as foods that are normally considered healthy is available at 'address some sensitive infants. Can throw a tantrum diary sheds light on food.

4) listen with respect
Imagine the frustration of a child who can not express what he is trying to say. Is it any wonder that the loss, if not heard by the sameimportant people in his life. It would also, is not it? Try to tune in and listen carefully to what he's trying to say to your child as you would another adult. Reflect back your child's feelings. So you feel heard and understood: Say: 'You're angry that your block tower crashed "or" I'm annoyed too. If I want "

5) Choose your battles
Do not sweat the small stuff is a good rule for parents. Save your energy for really important things andto avoid power struggles (which is really important if your child insists on his cereal bowl in pink rubber boots and carries with her dress party? This too shall pass, honestly, my own little girl an expensive shoe fetish boots these days!).

Allow the child a bit 'of independence for the little things can help the feeling of control and can more flexibly to the really important things. Standards such as safety belts and holding hands near roads are not negotiable, but a balance between healthand security and a happy day can benefit family relationships (parents and mental health).

Take a peak at things from the perspective of your child (imagine how would you feel if someone more like you said, like clothing or messed up the ritual in the morning. Do you like your coffee mug?), Parental controls Your house rules (and buy cute rubber boots) and keep the things that really matter.

6) Say "No" and say:
Far better to say "yes" to change their minds after the first babyexploded. Remember, "maybe" means yes, a child). Rewarding uncontrollable tantrums can encourage real, the smaller (semi) deliberate tantrums to get what they want to use.

7) Please do not be embarrassed.
It can be difficult to consider the feelings your child when he leads a tantrum in public, But whatever you do not cry, not once, not to give refuge and smack Because you do not feel embarrassed. And please do not walk away from the dead and control in places likeShopping centers. It 'pretty scary out of control, without feeling even be abandoned. The best thing you can do is pick up and leave your child.

8) offer comfort
Because you know your child better, you know, if this is a small Tanty or a big blow-out and if it is better to let off steam by himself (with you nearby) or if you need an oppressive situation and removed the conviction, but still.

If your child is wild thrashing and the risk ofharm themselves or others, you can help control your emotions out of control through a technique known as "Operation." This only works if you can keep calm. The idea is not to restrain the child, but to help them feel safe and emotionally done: Sit against a wall, if possible, support your back, take a deep breath to calm himself. Dr. Margot Sunderland advises, "to see themselves as a nice warm, quiet ceiling." Well cover your baby from him with his back to you(If it begins, will be away from you KicKing) and bend your arms above her. When he was an older child, take an arm each of your hands and arms. You can also include cross-legged on the legs and to avoid contact. Keep calm and gentle with a sound, soothing words (This is well said, I'm going to hold you, to reassure you) that destroys his feelings hurt.

In a tantrum, the child will not be in a room, with reason and in anyIf you can not activate the reasoning part of his brain while he is desperate. As your child calm, let him lie in your arms and cuddle until he is on his collapse. Then offer reassurance and a different (but preferably quiet) activity.

If you walk to work for your child during a relatively mild temper tantrum when he returned, he moved to embrace him and say: "I'm still here and I love you." Give certainty not only by adults when they feel upset or needs comfort registeroverwhelmed to know that young children who are loved, even if their behavior is not love and embracing him when he is quiet, you reward him for the liquidation of the fund (positive behavior). With his child to be responsible, he will feel safe and secure enough his feelings and move on.

9) Press your feelings appropriately
Loss of child emotional support goes hand in hand with the recognition and express your feelings adequately andhonest. It can also help identify those feelings of your son and the greatest difficulty in trying to understand your point of view of the child, trying to recall their feelings as a child: think of a time when excited as a child and felt the reaction from adults in their world was not united. You play to cry? Punished for expressing anger? Now, imagine how you would be happy to respond.

10) Confirm your child's feelings
You cantake lots of practice to Respond calmly to a child's very emotional, but if one it is collapsed, because they can not get their shoes has or broken an expensive toy if you understand the feeling's your child with words, rather Than rejected confirm their sadness or frustration, you can make a difference in how it deals with such strong feelings and will have long term effects.

If we teach children that their feelings count, that react to them thatare people to whom they can trust and rely, sensitive to them, learning that is safe for their expressive and open and that need, ask. This is emotional intelligence.

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